Love me for me

I was reading my Glamour magazine today and they had a "man section". Basically they go out with a huge list of questions and poll 1000 different men. One of the questions was:

Would you rather date a woman 20 years older than you OR 20 pounds heavier than you??

51% OF MEN SAID THEY WOULD RATHER DATE A WOMAN 20 YEARS OLDER!!!

OMG that is a woman that would be old enough to be their mother! 20 pounds???? REALLY???? Good thing I am married because I would be screwed considering I have 100 pounds to lose and I weigh at least 30 more pounds than my husband! (Which I actually do hate that I do) 

What I really wanna say to these men is.............GUESS WHAT BUDDY???? For starters that women that you refuse to date because she weighs a measly 20 pounds more than you.....could be really, really, really awesome! Odds are that because she is overweight, she won't jerk you around as much because as men so clearly feel.......only half of men would even consider being with her. She could be the sweetest woman around, not to  mention the fact that just because a women is overweight DOES NOT, I repeat DOES NOT mean she isn't beautiful! I know some absolutely gorgeous women that are overweight, and I know some skinny women that aren't all that fun to look at. Beauty is not based on weight alone you idiots!!!!

It is estimated that 63-67% of Americans are overweight I have read a lot of different statistics on the matter and it's always somewhere in that range. We ARE the majority! I am absolutely not saying that that is a good thing, in fact I know good and well that it's not, I am also not saying a  man shouldn't date an older women. To each his own. What I am saying is that he shouldn't decide based on weight! The  more I learn the more angry I get, the more disgusted with people I get, the more I fear for my children who are growing up and developing in our society today. I am saying that we are the majority....more women than not are overweight. What if we decided we wouldn't date men who are NOT overweight? Your choices would dwindling by the day! Not to mention the fact that I am almost willing to bet that if she was 20 pounds heavier because of a DDD boob job and an ass implant...he would be ok with that. It's disgusting.

I also wish I knew who these men were. This way we could put them in a room and let a bunch of strong willed, beautiful, amazing overweight women give it to them the way they deserve! This way we could tell them to go ahead and date someone as old as their mother, because those 20 pounds I have on you...I can lose them. She is only going to get older. Oh and of course can we mention that men like this must have the maturity level of my 2 year old, and what women that is 20 years older wants to be with an immature idiot like that!?!?!? Those a-holes are destined to be alone I'm thinking!

Ok, I definitely needed to vent a little obviously...but in all seriousness...that sort of thing hurts, and sad but true is the fact that for almost all of us, part of the reason why we want to lose weight is to attract the opposite sex (or the same sex if you happen to be a lesbian, I won't discriminate!) 

I was just having a talk with my friend CarolAnn about this the other day. If we aren't already with someone we want to lose so that we can reel that perfect guy in. For me, I want to keep my husband happy.

Before anyone starts hating on my hubby you should know that he has NEVER said anything to me about  my weight, he still tells me I am beautiful and sexy and treats me that way too. He has never made me feel undesirable, but in my heart of hearts, in my reality, I know of course that I am overweight, and we all know that while some men do love curves on a women...most men don't want a women who is significantly overweight such as myself.

My husband and I are high school sweethearts, and when we first got together I didn't really have a weight problem ( I look at pictures now and I laugh because I thought I was fat then? lol I had no idea how fat I could get, if I could go back I would kick my own ass!) But the truth remains that over the last 10 years I have changed, I have put on a lot of weight, I don't look near like I did when we got together and don't we have to wonder if they miss the thin versions of ourselves? Even though men (or at least smart ones! lol) wouldn't say those things, but I'm sort of thinking...they are thinking it! We are told constantly that losing weight shouldn't be for anyone but yourself, but I can't help how I feel and although I am doing it for myself I have to be honest and admit that part of me is doing it for him.

So I am saying it...part of the reason I want to lose weight is for my husband! Is is shameful to feel that way? It's out of my love for him, and my love for who we are together that I want to be the best me that I can be...for him AND for myself, and for my kids, and for a lot of reasons. It's ok to feel that way, so long as that isn't the only reason your doing it...it's ok, for that to be one of the many reasons why we work so hard :) If it's something you have decided you want to do for him, that's ok, it's up to you...if he is telling you that you don't have a choice...tell him to hit the road!!! And always remember that you don't have to look one certain way, or be pin thin or have the perfect measurements to be desirable!

I told you all in the beginning I was going to blog what was real, I was going to blog the stuff we think about but are too afraid to say....

So lets try and not think about the a-holes out there who can't appreciate a women for who she is on the inside as well as on the outside and let's never forget that there really and truly are men out there who aren't that way, after all your dodging the real bullet if a guy like that won't date you because you don't have the exact body of a supermodel. And the good one's you will know....after all if there are 51% who won't date an overweight woman....that means there are 49% who will, and even if you do get thin and perfect...I would say still stick with one of them in that 49%, they will be the ones worthwhile ;)

Me and my hubby, who seems to love me even when I'm fat <3